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This past week, I head out of town for a conference full of people I don’t know, many of whom are experts in my field.
I am usually an introvert and have a hard enough time with these kinds of meet-ups, but I also know that discomfort is nothing compared to regret, and I’ve allowed my introverted “shy” nature to stop me from having many wonderful experiences – and I refuse to live that way anymore. I refuse to set that example for my daughter.
There are many reasons that contribute to being reserved, or shy, but it usually ends up with the same results. Leaving a social gathering feeling unexpressed, having lost the opportunity to make genuine connections, and possibly leaving people with either no impressions or bad impressions. (I can’t tell you how many people over the years have interpreted my reserved nature as being snobby, because I don’t strike them as a shy person.)
This time, I committed to myself that things would be different. I chose boldness over regret, and I had to keep choosing boldness over and over again.
I met amazing people that I usually would be too intimidated to approach.
I had fun and explored a gorgeous city with a new friend who I’m excited to develop a friendship with – a friend who I only knew from online interactions.
I got out of my bubble and am returning home without regret, without words I wish I had said, or knowing there were events I skipped out on, or people that I recognized and was too afraid to approach. (Although I was a bit of a wallflower the first night…)
Before heading to the conference, I told LISTERINE® about my commitment to being bold and going outside of my comfort zone and they challenged me to pick up some LISTERINE® Antiseptic in the Cool Mint variety at CVS to see how that helped me boost my confidence.
I will definitely say that feeling confident in your smile and knowing that you have fresh breath is really vital to being bold when meeting people. Using Listerine Antiseptic after brushing my teeth made it so that I didn’t worry about bad breath at all (because that is not the impression I’d want to leave with people) – brushing misses 75% of your mouth so using LISTERINE® cleans virtually 100% and it claims to kill 99.9% of bad breath germs
Other things that helped me feel confident this weekend were:
- Professionally printed business cards – this made it so I wasn’t scrambling for pens and scraps of paper for people who wanted my info, and it put me in the mindset that people would want my info!
- Notepad and extra pens
- Lip gloss – I feel more confident wearing this than lipstick which can smudge, yet it helped me feel polished.
- A reminder from home – I carried around a purse decorated by my daughter for the majority of the conference. It was a conversation starter but I also felt confident and connected while wearing it
- Comfortable shoes – there is nothing worse than sitting down while everyone is standing because your feet hurt, or not joining a friend for a walk, or heading back to your hotel room early from aching feet. Comfortable shoes can still be cute!
- Taking breaks – don’t feel like you have to be “on” all of the time. I took several breaks up to my room in between conference sessions and took several walks around the city to enjoy the scenary and clear my head.
- Focusing on the “why” – why was I there? Why did I want to meet these people? Focusing on that (without adding pressure) allowed to focus on my goals and not my nervous nature
- Staying hydrated and well-fed – it’s funny what a bit of dehydration can do to you.
Also, adding some pink streaks into my hair (I often have pink or purple streaks since I work from home) helped me feel a bit bolder and like people could get a sense of my personality before approaching me. Maybe that’s not for everyone, but doing something like polishing your nails or putting on a necklace might give you the same confidence boost.
What helps you feel bold and confident in situations that are out of your comfort zone?
Thank you Listerine for sponsoring this post, which helped allow me to attend this conference.